Prom Dress Code: Ask Questions
Now is the time!!!
It's mid February and many of you and your parents have started to look for a prom dress. This is a great idea. It takes time to pick one out, not to mention the time it takes to alter it to fit you or your daughter perfectly. There are many factors needed to find the perfect prom dress:
- Your personal tastes
- What is in style now (Check out my hot for prom page)
- What do you feel comfortable with (both physically and emotionally)
- What you hope to convey to others with your dress (you're hot, you're stylish, you're rich, you have great legs, etc.)
- How much dress you can afford (most of you have budgets, they can be stretched, but usually not broken...Have you thought about renting a dress instead of buying one?)
- Do you want a dress you can actually dance in (a mermaid style dress might look great, but can you really move the way you want to in it?)
- Can you sit in the dress (For some dresses it's easy to dance in, but can you sit in a huge ball gown or an ultra-small mini-dress?)
- Can your body actually pull of what you want (Let's face it, everyone has physical assets and physical liabilities, some dresses won't work for you no matter how much you want it to.)
- What about the school dress code?
It's this last item that I want to talk about in this article.
The school dress code is different from school to school. Usually this effects only the girls who are getting all dolled up for prom. For boys it is pretty easy, wear a suit or tux, with a dress shirt and tie and you are fine. Administrators say the boy's have a code too, no denim, no shorts, no dresses but those sort of go without saying. But girls can spend a lot of time on their dress and they think it's quite appropriate and personally, I agree, but I am very liberal on these matters and I don't run a high school. Schools have their rules and you had better find out fast. Being turned away at the door is not only embarrassing, it is heartbreaking. It also effects others too, like your date and all your friends who want to see you at the prom.
I have heard that some schools want they student's dresses to be preapproved and have them sign a contract. Many think this is a bad thing, but the good thing about that is once approved there won't be any problem at the door of the prom. I think the opposite. You girls are going to spend a lot of money and time on your dress, you should know you will be allowed into the prom. I say now is the time to get the dress code. Before you start looking. Find out who is in charge of the code and get exact requirements.
One school's requirements are: "Women's gowns may not be extremely short, have an extremely low cut front or back, have any excessively high cut slits, have overly revealing midriffs, or be inappropriately revealing- giving the illusion of nudity,”
I find these requirements too vague. Ask questions to pin then down. The requirement is “overly high slits” ask them does that mean any slit that is under the knee is fine? Find out what they mean. Don't take, I'll know it when I see it. It's too late by then.
What about extremely low cut fronts? Does that mean a strapless sweetheart neck is OK or not? If not would it be fine with some meshing on top? The back is even more perplexing? How low can the back neckline be? The front is easier because there are let's face it breasts, but the back is different.
Overly revealing midriffs? This year two-piece dresses with open midriffs are the style. What do they mean? Is one inch fine? How about two inches? Is this a way of saying, hey if you can tell it's a two piece dress don't wear it. Find out.
Then finally, if you go to a 'strict' school and you know who you are, then get a selfie of you in the dress and get approval from the person in charge. Couldn't hurt if you get it in writing. You are going to spend a lot of time and money on this dress. It's better to know before purchasing.